the pressure on first generation children of immigrants
to prove that you are indeed proof that parents’ sacrifice was worth it
is something that many Americans will never understand
This is something I think of every time I see white people post anything about rejecting capitalism as a goal or metric of success and how they’ll never understand.
The Ultimate Fully Loaded Vegan Nachos / Recipe
happening right now while I’m working and there seem to be no dresses that fit my style on ASOS and I need something for Wednesday. guess who’s gonna shop IRL on Monday.
Anonymous asked: What are the signs of emotional abuse?
Abusive Expectations - Makes impossible demands, requires constant attention, and constantly criticizes.
Aggressing - Name calling, accusing, blames, threatens or gives orders, and often disguised as a judgmental “I know best” or “helping” attitude.
Constant Chaos - Deliberately starts arguments with you or others. May treat you well in front of others, but changes when you’re alone.
Rejecting - Refusing to acknowledge a person’s value, worth or presence. Communicating that he or she is useless or inferior or devaluing his or her thoughts and feelings.
Denying - Denies personal needs (especially when need is greatest) with the intent of causing hurt or as punishment. Uses silent treatment as punishment. Denies certain events happened or things that were said. Denies your perceptions, memory and sanity by disallowing any viewpoints other than their own which causes self-doubt, confusion, and loss of self-esteem.
Degrading - Any behavior that diminishes the identity, worth or dignity of the person such as: name-calling, mocking, teasing, insulting, ridiculing,
Emotional Blackmail - Uses guilt, compassion, or fear to get what he or she wants.
Terrorizing - Inducing intense fear or terror in a person, by threats or coercion.
Invalidation - Attempts to distort your perception of the world by refusing to acknowledge your personal reality. Says that your emotions and perceptions aren’t real and shouldn’t be trusted.
Isolating - Reducing or restricting freedom and normal contact with others.
Corrupting - Convincing a person to accept and engage in illegal activities.
Exploiting - Using a person for advantage or profit.
Minimizing - A less extreme form of denial that trivializes something you’ve expressed as unimportant or inconsequential.
Unpredictable Responses - Gets angry and upset in a situation that would normally not warrant a response. You walk around on eggshells to avoid any unnecessary drama over innocent comments you make. Drastic mood swings and outbursts.
Gaslighting -A form of psychological abuse involving the manipulation of situations or events that cause a person to be confused or to doubt his perceptions and memories. Gaslighting causes victims to constantly second-guess themselves and wonder if they’re losing their minds.
aka, reasons I never plan to enter into a co-habitation relationship again within my lifetime. not even a little bit joking, truth.
Two emergency actions to stop NYC’s homeless purge on trains
February 21, 2014We knew this was coming - NYPD Commissioner Bill Bratton is rolling out his first major anti-homeless policing initiative. And we’re ready to fight back. And we need your help.DNAInfo is reporting that at 3AM on Monday, the City will start purging sleeping homeless people from the subways, stopping trains at two stations to force people off and into a shelter or a hospital. But the NYPD will be on hand, presumably to arrest people who refuse to go. It’s framed as an MTA response to the increased volume of homeless people during this bitter cold winter, but this is a police action, pure and simple. Homeless people who ride the trains have already assessed and rejected the shelter and the hospital as alternative options.Our main concerns are:
- Folks will be profiled as homeless and told to leave the trains after they’ve paid their fare
- Folks will be told to leave the train if they are homeless regardless if they’ve been on the train for 15 minutes or 15 days. It isn’t against the law to be riding a subway while homeless!
- Besides being a misguided, broken windows strategy, this is a clear violation of the newly-passed Community Safety Act, and its ban on profiling based on “housing status” or perceived homelessness.
- While it is problematic that there is a huge increase in homelessness in NYC policing is not the solution, housing is.
Some of our members have already written powerful responses, captured here on our blog. But statements are not enough.
On Sunday, February 23rd, we’ll gather at NYPD headquarters to hold a press conference condemning this blatant violation of our rights.
3PM, Sunday February 23rd
1 Police Plaza (4/5/6 train to Brooklyn Bridge/City Hall; behind the Municipal Building)And then at 3AM, when the MTA is scheduled to roll out this new policy, we’ll be on hand with legal observers to monitor the enforcement and ensure no ones rights are violated!3AM, Monday February 24th
Jamaica Center Subway Station, E PlatformWTC Subway Station, E PlatformWe really really need your help, at either or both of these important actions. We knew that when Bratton returned as NYPD commissioner, bad policing was on its way - but if we fight back fast and hard, we can show him that a lot has changed in New York City since he’s been away, and folks won’t stand for profiling of any kind!
In news related to NYC’s homelessness crisis & deplorable shelter system, 400 children & their families will be removed from two city shelters - Auburn in Brooklyn & Catherine Street in Manhattan - for more than 400 violations, including “vermin, mold, lead exposure, an inoperable fire safety system, insufficient child care and the presence of sexual predators, among them, a caseworker.”
Disgusting shelter conditions, high rates of sexual abuse, violence, & pure bureaucratic bullshit people have to deal with when entering the shelter system are exactly why there are so many street homeless people & subway sleepers here. Now people will be kicked out of the only warm (& relatively safe) shelter they can find in the city.
The homeless population in New York City includes more than 52,000 people, including 22,000 youth.
please, understand, especially if you’re a NYC resident, you either have to stand against this or accept that your actions are about to kill people. i’m tired of pretending to sop someone’s persecution complex: that’s the real, statistically-inarguable outcome of “police actions” like this.
this especially targets queer people, particularly trans, particularly trans women, particularly trans women of color, who have been disowned and kicked out by their bigoted families and/or social networks, who are often not in shelters or hospitals because of the high rate of abuse and violence their bodies are targeted with in such “community”-oriented spaces, and choose the train instead, because being on their own on the train is safer than trusting the community not to fail them.
and letting the NYC administration do this is going to kill those people. people whose number i could and still someday might be counted among. this is murder.
there are lives at stake. maybe your own. (do you think this is the first time? or the last? as long as any of us draw breath, there will be monsters trying to kill us.) even this little bit - if you can be there. be there.
getting profiled as homeless while on the train in the middle of the night and getting arrested sounds terrifying and inevitable for many - this is about 20 levels of wrong.
oh dear, everything about this.